Published: 20-Oct-2026
What to do if your loved one may have dementia?
Part 1: Recognising the signs of Dementia and taking the first step
Noticing changes in a parent or loved one’s memory, behaviour or ability to manage everyday activities can be worrying. You may wonder whether these changes are a normal part of ageing or could be signs of Dementia.
The first thing to remember is not to panic or make assumptions. Dementia is not a normal part of ageing, but memory and behaviour changes can have many possible causes. A professional assessment is the best way to understand what may be happening.
Recognising the warning signs of Dementia
Occasionally forgetting a name or misplacing something can happen as we age. However, persistent or worsening changes may need attention.
Possible warning signs of Dementia include:
- Frequently forgetting recent conversations or events
- Repeating questions or stories
- Becoming confused about dates, times or familiar places
- Struggling with money, medication or household tasks
- Difficulty finding the right words
- Losing interest in favourite activities
- Noticeable changes in mood or personality
- Becoming unusually anxious, suspicious or withdrawn
- Getting lost in familiar surroundings
- Struggling with familiar everyday tasks
One or two of these signs does not necessarily mean someone has Dementia. However, a noticeable change from their usual behaviour is worth discussing with a healthcare professional.
Start with a compassionate conversation
Talking about memory concerns can be difficult. Your loved one may feel embarrassed, frightened or defensive.
Choose a calm, private moment and focus on what you have noticed rather than suggesting a diagnosis.
You could say:
"I've noticed that you've seemed to be having a little more difficulty remembering things lately. I'm concerned about you, and I think it might be a good idea for us to speak to your doctor."
The goal is to support your loved one, not label them.
Encourage a professional assessment
Encourage your loved one to make an appointment with their doctor or healthcare professional. An assessment may include questions about memory and thinking, a review of medications and medical history, physical examinations and other investigations where appropriate.
Some medical conditions, medications, sleep problems and depression can cause symptoms that may resemble Dementia. This is why professional assessment is so important.
If Dementia is diagnosed, early assessment can also help families understand the condition and plan for the future.
The first step is simply recognising that something has changed and seeking help.
References and further reading
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